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Abusive Relationships

Did you know that battering is the major cause of injury in women ; as many as 4 million women are abused nationwide ? Did you also know that men are also the victims of abusive relationships ? Abuse can rear its ugly head in many ways . . .emotional , psychological , sexual , and physical abuse in any relationship .

What exactly is emotional abuse ?

  • Ridiculing a partner 's beliefs
  • Purposeful humiliation, whether in public or private
  • Insulting a partner deliberately
  • Undermining a partner 's self -esteem
  • Purposely withholding affection or praise
How about psychological abuse ?
  • Confining a partner to their home ; imposing isolation from family , friends . . . etc
  • Threatening to kill oneself if the partner ends the relationship
  • Obsessive jealousy and possessiveness
  • Controlling a partner 's activities
And what is included with sexual abuse ?
  • Forcing sex on a partner when he /she is afraid to say no for fear of argument
  • Forcing a partner to have unprotected sex
  • Using sexually degrading names
  • Deliberately causing a partner pain during sex


What exactly is physical abuse ?

  • Pushing , shoving , slapping , hitting , pinching , pulling hair , choking , spitting , throwing objects .
  • Abandoning a partner in a dangerous place
  • Refusing to help a partner during illness

Many victims of abusive partners believe that they deserve the abuse , don't realize that it is , indeed , abuse , or are simply too scared to leave . If you or someone that you know is in an abusive relationship , get help !

CSU Counseling Center (970 ) 491 -6053
CSU Police Department (970 ) 491 -6425
Victim's Assistance Team (VAT ) 491 -7111 or 491 -6384
RAINN - Rape , Abuse , Incest National Network (800 ) 656 -HOPE