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Can my boyfriend "fingering" me cause me to lose my virginity?

Q)Can my boyfriend "fingering" me cause me to lose my virginity?

A)

To steal some terminology from the infamous Bill Clinton: It depends on what the meaning of "virginity" is. If we say a virgin is a woman who has not had sexual intercourse then "fingering" does not involve loss of virginity. However, if the definition is "uncontaminated, fresh, new," there may be some question.